Someone nudged me about my post about the Order of the White Feather. She pointed out to me that it was irresponsible for me to name someone as a sexual assailant without there being any formal accusations. So if you're looking for what I said about the certain someone, it's gone. I fully admit my actions in this.
I also would like to specify that neither Silver Goggles nor I personally are formally associated with the Order of the White Feather beyond solidarity; therefore, any attacks upon the Order of the White Feather are completely unjustified and nonsensical, as they are not culpable for my actions.
Since it has gone up, with a record of a thousand pageviews in about a day, I'm given to understand that the situation has escalated, with emotions running high, lawsuits being waved about, and yelling, a lot of yelling, across the aether.
I also would like to specify that neither Silver Goggles nor I personally are formally associated with the Order of the White Feather beyond solidarity; therefore, any attacks upon the Order of the White Feather are completely unjustified and nonsensical, as they are not culpable for my actions.
Since it has gone up, with a record of a thousand pageviews in about a day, I'm given to understand that the situation has escalated, with emotions running high, lawsuits being waved about, and yelling, a lot of yelling, across the aether.
I apologize first and foremost for the moral panic. My intentions don't matter, only the effect, and the effect was a moral panic and outrage, possibly a lot of unnecessary hostility. I don't know what's going on for sure, I'm not on Facebook or wherever you people are sharing my posts. But people I respect have approached me about this and told me that unnecessary damage is being done for no good reason. People I respect are not happy with me, and when I realized what I did, I'm not happy with myself either.
I apologize for naming people I shouldn't have named, creating undue backlash. Again, whatever my intentions, the unfortunate effect was that it created a space of suspicion instead of a space of honesty, where instead of examining hubris, it became finger-pointing. I implicated reputations and created a guilty-by-association tidal wave, rather than a rally-for-support space. I misjudged the outcome: I overestimated some stuff, and I underestimated other stuff, and bam, terrible situation.
I apologize for naming people I shouldn't have named, creating undue backlash. Again, whatever my intentions, the unfortunate effect was that it created a space of suspicion instead of a space of honesty, where instead of examining hubris, it became finger-pointing. I implicated reputations and created a guilty-by-association tidal wave, rather than a rally-for-support space. I misjudged the outcome: I overestimated some stuff, and I underestimated other stuff, and bam, terrible situation.
More, I apologize to the victims that I took attention away from. It's easy to point-and-accuse; it's less easy to do the more important work of centering survivors. What I did created an environment that not only allowed for but seriously encouraged hostility, derailing from what I should've been properly talking about, and I feel like a right fuckface about that.
What I also did was feed into an already-existing environment that can only think in terms of punishment in dealing with these issues. My actions combining finger-pointing, hostility, suspicion compounds the stress survivors and everyone around them already face. Due to all the factors above, what I did has not created the conversations I wanted to see happen, but in fact possibly stalled them.
This is neither productive nor useful. Survivors are best served not by white knights charging forward for them, but by a properly cultivated environment in which they feel empowered to step forward with less fear.
I wish to emphasize the need to carefully consider our most vulnerable members and their needs, which is what I should have done from the beginning. Thus, contrary to my usual policy, comments are locked to prevent further public hostility towards all parties. I encourage a ceasefire in which we all step back to reflect the series of events, how they came to be, how they unfolded, and how we might best move forward together.
I am interested in neither further accusing or defending anyone, nor in continued escalation, although I am sure that this is quite beyond my control at this point. I defer with humility to my betters who have advised me, and I apologize once more for my role in creating any untenable situation that certain members of our community find themselves in.
If this apology is lacking, I encourage you to yell into my inbox. I may not respond, but it might make you feel better.
What I also did was feed into an already-existing environment that can only think in terms of punishment in dealing with these issues. My actions combining finger-pointing, hostility, suspicion compounds the stress survivors and everyone around them already face. Due to all the factors above, what I did has not created the conversations I wanted to see happen, but in fact possibly stalled them.
This is neither productive nor useful. Survivors are best served not by white knights charging forward for them, but by a properly cultivated environment in which they feel empowered to step forward with less fear.
I wish to emphasize the need to carefully consider our most vulnerable members and their needs, which is what I should have done from the beginning. Thus, contrary to my usual policy, comments are locked to prevent further public hostility towards all parties. I encourage a ceasefire in which we all step back to reflect the series of events, how they came to be, how they unfolded, and how we might best move forward together.
I am interested in neither further accusing or defending anyone, nor in continued escalation, although I am sure that this is quite beyond my control at this point. I defer with humility to my betters who have advised me, and I apologize once more for my role in creating any untenable situation that certain members of our community find themselves in.
If this apology is lacking, I encourage you to yell into my inbox. I may not respond, but it might make you feel better.
